Comments on: Reassurance and Insecurity http://ambernaslund.com/2008/11/29/reassurance-and-insecurity/ Fri, 16 Dec 2011 00:36:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Christa M. Miller http://ambernaslund.com/2008/11/29/reassurance-and-insecurity/#comment-98 Christa M. Miller Sun, 30 Nov 2008 00:21:49 +0000 http://ambernaslund.com/?p=32#comment-98 Looking back at my relationships with my closest friends, it strikes me that the one common thread among them all was, in fact, the soul connection. Absolutely none of the other stuff mattered - even if I, in my own desperation to "show" them our connection (as if I was the only one who felt it), found ways to mention my own tastes in hopes that they'd share theirs. It didn't matter. There are so many things I don't know about my best friends, both men and women, but I don't care. We've pledged friendship for as long as it lasts, forever if that happens to be the case, because of that "click." And, you know, even when I do care? When I'm convinced I've let them down and they'll think I'm not what we both believed? Reconnecting with them, even in the form of apology, tends to set us back on the right path, whether real or imagined. And so for even the deepest, most connected of friends, who truly seem to share a psychic bond, real communication--as opposed to assumptions or memories (the truly fragile and elusive scraps of a relationship, trapped in the prism of our own minds)--remains the most effective means to the end. Looking back at my relationships with my closest friends, it strikes me that the one common thread among them all was, in fact, the soul connection. Absolutely none of the other stuff mattered – even if I, in my own desperation to “show” them our connection (as if I was the only one who felt it), found ways to mention my own tastes in hopes that they’d share theirs. It didn’t matter. There are so many things I don’t know about my best friends, both men and women, but I don’t care. We’ve pledged friendship for as long as it lasts, forever if that happens to be the case, because of that “click.”

And, you know, even when I do care? When I’m convinced I’ve let them down and they’ll think I’m not what we both believed? Reconnecting with them, even in the form of apology, tends to set us back on the right path, whether real or imagined. And so for even the deepest, most connected of friends, who truly seem to share a psychic bond, real communication–as opposed to assumptions or memories (the truly fragile and elusive scraps of a relationship, trapped in the prism of our own minds)–remains the most effective means to the end.

]]> By: Damien Basile http://ambernaslund.com/2008/11/29/reassurance-and-insecurity/#comment-97 Damien Basile Sat, 29 Nov 2008 23:27:03 +0000 http://ambernaslund.com/?p=32#comment-97 We all have issues, we are all tired and we are all busy. We are all differently the same. We all know this on some level, and knowing this we naturally gravitate towards others with similar issues. Like attracts like. I could talk about the merits of helping others out and reciprocating, as there are MANY but... The ONE thing that I can't stress enough on everyone is this: If you want to be something, act that way until you are that way. Envision and create your whole world around you. Ensconce yourself with only thoughts & beliefs of how you want to be. Seeing is believing but more importantly BELIEVING IS SEEING. This is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you see it you will believe it and if you believe it you will see it. Believe what you want and you will bring it in to your reality. We are the creators of our own reality and are responsible to ourselves first and foremost. No one can create reality for you. As I was writing this a commercial for Hugo Boss comes on saying, "why live real when you can create reality. why live small when you can take the big dive. the rest is up to you'. If THIS ISNT the point i dont know what is. And as to hit the point home AGAIN, it repeats after another commercial played. Share, create, and co-create with others. We're all at different levels. Help where you can, give reassurance where you can and others will do for you where they can. Be selfish by being selfless. We all have issues, we are all tired and we are all busy. We are all differently the same. We all know this on some level, and knowing this we naturally gravitate towards others with similar issues. Like attracts like. I could talk about the merits of helping others out and reciprocating, as there are MANY but…

The ONE thing that I can’t stress enough on everyone is this:

If you want to be something, act that way until you are that way. Envision and create your whole world around you. Ensconce yourself with only thoughts & beliefs of how you want to be.

Seeing is believing but more importantly BELIEVING IS SEEING. This is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you see it you will believe it and if you believe it you will see it. Believe what you want and you will bring it in to your reality.

We are the creators of our own reality and are responsible to ourselves first and foremost. No one can create reality for you. As I was writing this a commercial for Hugo Boss comes on saying, “why live real when you can create reality. why live small when you can take the big dive. the rest is up to you’. If THIS ISNT the point i dont know what is. And as to hit the point home AGAIN, it repeats after another commercial played.

Share, create, and co-create with others. We’re all at different levels. Help where you can, give reassurance where you can and others will do for you where they can. Be selfish by being selfless.

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