Comments on: Letting Go

By: Maria Lavis

Maria Lavis — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 03:59:24 +0000

Not sure if you know that letting go is a powerful Buddhist practice Amber. It is a practice one can deepen to more fully let go of all the layers of things that cause us suffering, and sometimes we let go fully bit by bit as we are ready.

But, as Liz mentioned, the beautiful thing about it is that letting go of all that stuff also makes room for starting fresh. There is a powerful energy in starting new, and it can manifest tearfully too – in tears of joy. I wish this for you.

By: Tamar

Tamar — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 04:18:48 +0000

I needed to read this post…and I needed to read it today.

Thank you.

By: Tresha Thorsen

Tresha Thorsen — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 09:53:11 +0000

Hey Amber…I found your blog via altitude and a link on your post there. And then read this post and the comments. Lots of good ideas….I appreciate Liz’s comment about having arms open up to accept more and Ann’s insight that something else is letting her go if she needs to.
A goal of mine is to love for the fullness of that moment and the preciousness of that gift that moment…without outline, possession, obligation in a dictatorial sense. and yes. even when it means letting go..but i wouldn’t phrase it that way cuz it’s like you were possessing it.and from your authenticity, i don’t think you walk around feeling like you own a person even if you’re in a committed relationship…we own our thoughts. and to that end maybe in your next steps….just see that maybe you are letting go of thinking you could be made to believe you possessed something…and so it’s letting go of an imposed thought. not of anything that could sustain you….i don’t believe any one of us seek to possess another. feel freedom in saying yes to not possessing someone…ya know? there’s beauty in that.
with deep respect…and kindred hope for a journey of growth in love…

By: Aurelie

Aurelie — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 04:24:57 +0000

It’s easier to let go of the means than of the end… You can for instance let go of a job (admit things aren’t working out) without having to let go of your ideal career, or you can let go of a relationship without having to let go of the hope to find a soulmate.

I know it’s not going to help much, but the things I was forced to let go of and was most heartbroken about (a job I didn’t get and thought I desperately wanted, etc) are the ones that have turned into blessings in disguise ( a job much better suited to my lifestyle and aspiration came along – actually it was there from the start and I didn’t see it for a while, because I believed so strongly the other job was a better fit – experiences that have helped me discover what I truly wanted, and so on).

I’ve witnessed moments of stunning serendipity after surrendering to fate and letting go. Just take the leap and trust life’s going to be great – not just alright, but great. Good luck!

By: Ann Handley

Ann Handley — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:07:55 +0000

I’m not good at letting go, either. I’m better at gathering up, at collecting, at keeping. I’m more the “.. if it doesn’t come back, hunt it down and kill it” sort. I’m not particularly proud of it, but there you go.

What’s hard about letting go, at least for me, isn’t so much about me letting go. Rather, it’s realizing that something else or someone else is ALSO letting ME go.. or willing to. Or happy to. Or — dear God — begging to. Ouch.

Hugs, as always, to you.

By: David Benjamin

David Benjamin — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 20:00:19 +0000

It’s interesting to be reading this now, a few weeks after it was written. I get the sense that you are more at peace with the direction of your life, your career. As someone else stated earlier, you’re not obligated to share anything you’re uncomfortable with discussing. Just know that there are many people in your life that are there for support.

You’ve clearly built a strong network around you based on you just being you. They say business relationships can’t be built on the computer…the internet. I think we’re seeing a different story play out. Some of my strongest relationships both personal and professional have come from connections I have made starting online before taking offline.

Hope you’re doing well now!

Look forward to meeting you one day.

By: GirlPie

GirlPie — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 02:01:47 +0000

Yeah, everything that everyone else said too… but MAN! What a marketing lesson in this lean and well-crafted post: I would pay cold hard cash to know what the hell this was that you were choosing to let go of…
All honest kidding aside, that tough release you’re going through might just be your (smart) releasing of the expectations, which can allow the good that you hold more room, or to circle back to you, or to surprise you out of the blue when it shows up. We don’t think of it as a failure when we’re giving clothes to charity… that’s how I try to think of stuff that needs letting go; I just outgrew it, so I don’t need it anymore.
Lovely writing, by the way. You put it so well that all your readers ID with their own experiences, well done.

By: Emil Wisch

Emil Wisch — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 04:09:46 +0000

I left this up in my browser for a few days to make sure I got back to it.
Pouring your heart out can be so liberating. I’ve learned to look at myself and my thoughts from the inside out. Recently I admitted to myself and my wife something I was never able to diagnose…I was afraid. I always thought I had to be strong and do whatever HAD to be done.
I had always heard in my mind that in order to successful, you had to successful no matter what you were doing. When this wasn’t the case, I would feel like a failure. I realize this IS-NOT-TRUE. What a great relief it is to succumb to your fears and realize you don’t have to be great at something that doesn’t fit your skills or personality.
Now that it’s all said and done, I can focus on my strengths. Freedom at last.

By: butterflygirl

butterflygirl — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 23:54:16 +0000

I learned to finally let go when I went through my divorce. I have never felt better. Letting go has just become natural.

By: Jaculynn Peterson

Jaculynn Peterson — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 05:42:18 +0000

Amber,

I understand how you feel. Been there many times. But whatever you had to let go was for a reason. Not only that – it was courageous. Leaders know when to cut bait.

http://www.jaculynnpeterson.com/2007/12/04/cutting-bait-takes-courage-for-both-company-and-client/

Or, as Seth Godin often says re: getting through the dip — you just need to carry it through to a “logical conclusion.” (doesn’t necessarily mean successful end).

Good luck to you. Best wishes on your new gig, too.